This post is a little different for me, but here it goes anyway….
On the same path as I mentioned in my post about writing more with the thought of my girls in mind, this post came to light.
Die for Me? How about LIVE for Me!
I was in the car by myself driving to a friend’s baby shower. My mind was reminiscing about our friendship and the many things she and I have experienced together. While my mind was wandering Bruno Mars’s song “Grenade” came on the radio. I’ve heard this song a million times, but this time I was listening to the lyrics and it got me thinking…about my girls…and what I want for them.
“To give me all your love is all I ever asked
‘Cause what you don’t understand
Is I’d catch a grenade for ya
Throw my hand on the blade for ya
I’d jump in front of a train for ya
You know I’d do anything for ya
See I would go through all this pain
Take a bullet straight through my brain
Yes I would die for ya, baby
But you won’t do the same”
Ok, so I may not be popular on this thought, and let me make it clear now, I am a HUGE Bruno Mars fan, but ew! No! I don’t want my girls to find someone that will die for them. I want them to find someone that will LIVE for them.
You see, isn’t dying really easier than LIVING for someone. I want them to find someone that is passionate in life. I want them to find someone that thrives off of their accomplishments. I want someone that embraces the world with them and takes every obstacle as a learning experience. To use their hardships as a way to grow and learn, and to find the good, as hard as it may be, in everything. I want them to have someone that will fight for them to have a life together, but not offer up his life for her happiness, for in my opinion, anyone losing themselves in a relationship kills the relationship.
Shouldn’t you be bringing the best out in each other? Shouldn’t you have such respect and admiration that the bond you share makes others hunger for what you have? Do you agree?
This is a tall order. And I can even say that this may be hypocritical of myself, for I’m tarnished and struggle with always finding the good in everything. I do try. I also feel that I may have not always been as good to myself as what I want for my girls. So I am trying to find the balance, of being a better me, doing what I should to set a good example. It’s not easy. I’m sure I will continue to make mistakes. But it’s nice to know that I am aware and trying.