Die for Me? How about LIVE for Me! #inspire

This post is a little different for me, but here it goes anyway….

Gabi and MAdi

On the same path as I mentioned in my post about writing more with the thought of my girls in mind, this post came to light.

Die for Me?  How about LIVE for Me!

I was in the car by myself driving to a friend’s baby shower.  My mind was reminiscing about our friendship and the many things she and I have experienced together.  While my mind was wandering Bruno Mars’s song “Grenade” came on the radio.  I’ve heard this song a million times, but this time I was listening to the lyrics and it got me thinking…about my girls…and what I want for them.

“To give me all your love is all I ever asked
‘Cause what you don’t understand
Is I’d catch a grenade for ya
Throw my hand on the blade for ya
I’d jump in front of a train for ya
You know I’d do anything for ya

See I would go through all this pain
Take a bullet straight through my brain
Yes I would die for ya, baby
But you won’t do the same”

~Bruno Mars

Ok, so I may not be popular on this thought, and let me make it clear now, I am a HUGE Bruno Mars fan, but ew!  No!  I don’t want my girls to find someone that will die for them.  I want them to find someone that will LIVE for them.

Gabi and Madi jump

You see, isn’t dying really easier than LIVING for someone.  I want them to find someone that is passionate in life.  I want them to find someone that thrives off of their accomplishments.  I want someone that embraces the world with them and takes every obstacle as a learning experience.  To use their hardships as a way to grow and learn, and to find the good, as hard as it may be, in everything.  I want them to have someone that will fight for them to have a life together, but not offer up his life for her happiness, for in my opinion, anyone losing themselves in a relationship kills the relationship.

Shouldn’t you be bringing the best out in each other?  Shouldn’t you have such respect and admiration that the bond you share makes others hunger for what you have?  Do you agree?

This is a tall order.  And I can even say that this may be hypocritical of myself, for I’m tarnished and struggle with always finding the good in everything.  I do try.  I also feel that I may have not always been as good to myself as what I want for my girls.  So I am trying to find the balance, of being a better me, doing what I should to set a good example.  It’s not easy.  I’m sure I will continue to make mistakes.  But it’s nice to know that I am aware and trying.


xo ~T





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  1. Great message for everyone. I hope, as my daughter gets older, she will be this person, with a passion for living AND find someone her equal! <3 Love it!

  2. This is such a touchy subject. You are absolutely right it is easier to die for someone than live for someone. Its sad at times when people or kids think that its better to take the easy way out of things. I try hard to instill these values in my kids that every relationship is hard work and nothing or no one is ever worth giving up your own life for.

  3. This is such a good post! I think everyone should be surrounded by people who live for them. I worry my kids won’t though. My husband is always a Negative Nelly and I am the eternal optimist. I don’t want them to settle for negativity in their lives when they can have so much more.

  4. I love your message here! You are so right, it is more challenging to live for someone than to die for them. Too many teen movies, books, etc send a message that girls should be willing to die for their true love. Living is so much better!

  5. Totally agree, you can’t give up yourself to be what someone else wants you to be, which is what I get out of the “die for you” idea. You have to be just you, there is no one else you can be. If you change just to “fit” someone else, it won’t ever work.

  6. Sometimes we get so busy that we forget to focus on what is important! Great reminder to surround yourself by those that help you to shine.

  7. I love this… and love how it all culminated from listening to the lyrics of a song. I love it.. and it’s something I, personally should be doing more of so I can see why you would want young men to live for your daughters and live life to the fullest.. period. This is a great post, your daughters are as lucky as you are to have them 😉 Thanks for sharing your inspiration.

  8. I agree with you 100%. It’s so easy to say those words, but to truly live FOR another person… make compromises and choices with them as a partner – is a completely different ballgame. This is a great message you are sending to your beautiful girls!

  9. Awwwe…Your girls seem so sweet! My daughter just turned 17 and I totally agree and relate to what you are saying. Yes. I love Bruno too, but the words are too melodramatic. There are a few songs like. The lyrics to If I Die Young, etc. These kids are too young to be singing about dying. Live…Laugh and Love… 🙂

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