Time really does fly. It’s funny when I think back to the days when I was a kid and how even an hour felt like an eternity. As I got older and was in high school, a month felt like a life time. Being 40 and a mom to two teenage girls, the saying really resonates with me. I look back at my girls and what seems like yesterday was years ago now.
Prioritizing Family Time with My Girls
Thinking back to the moment I found out I was pregnant with Gabi, my now 15 year old, I remember the overwhelming feeling of excitement. From the time I can remember playing house, I always wanted to be a mom. Those nights of little to no sleep of making sure she was breathing with her in a co-sleeper next to my side of the bed WITH a monitor so close to her face I could see the lights go up and down from her breathing, to her first words, first steps…it just doesn’t seem that long ago.
Then we welcomed her little sister, which even today, I can feel my eyes filling up with tears as I think about waking her at about 4:30 in the morning to introduce her to her new baby sister. My heart melting when her first words were, “she’s and angel”. Sigh…such a sweet moment, and again, one that seems like just a short time ago. Madi is now 13.
Juggling life is always a challenge. When you factor in school, work, sports, friends, family, holidays, travel, holidays, health…you get the picture. Everyone running in a million different directions. We all live it, right? Just a few days ago a friend of mine and I were talking about those challenges and she said something that was really great. She was talking about her life growing up and how it too was always busy. Dinner time just wasn’t one of those family times they could all connect, especially as they got older. Because of this, her family made a point that every morning they would spend breakfast together. They would start the day off with each other, sharing what the day would bring, just to connect before the busyness of life took over.
This was big for me, for I had just been up early that morning preparing for my day full of meetings. I am usually able to steal an extra hour of sleep as the girls get ready for their day, and they are usually leaving as I wake up. While I listened to their morning conversation, I thought how in a few years there would only be one getting ready for school, and she would be downstairs by herself. I got a little sad.
Now, please know, that I am not one of those moms that want her kids to be little forever, or to never leave home. I am actually really excited to see them grow and become all they can be in life. I am excited to see Gabi pursue her dreams in a few years as she heads off to whatever school she chooses. Bittersweet? Of course, but none the less, we have a choice on how to embrace it right? I will choose to be excited and supportive. None the less, she will be leaving home in just a little over 2 years, which as I now know very well is just a few quick blinks away.
So in all of this thought process I have been thinking of things to do together that will make lasting memories before I am trumped by college friends and a boyfriend for any free time she may have. It’s ok, it is a part of life. I get it. The trip planned for NYC coming up in a couple of months or the weekend trips to the mall or even the four hour road trip we had together will be great memories. But after talking with my friend, I realized there is a bigger memory to be made here. Those daily moments, which are really just a few minutes, will be cherished for a lifetime, just like my friend does. I want that. So what does that mean for me? A small sacrifice of getting up just a few minutes earlier to have a cup of coffee while we chat about our day ahead. Hopefully it will be something that will mean something to them as they get older. Whether it’s as quick as when they head off to school, or when they have teenagers of their own. I encourage you to do the same. Time really does fly!
What type of prioritizing do you do to show your kids they matter most? I would love to hear from you, for if I hadn’t had that conversation with my friend, I don’t know that breakfast would have been ever thought about.